School motto - Courtesy
23/03/2008Courtesy is more than having good ‘manners’. It is an important aspect of respectful living that can be a challenge to stick with. Courtesy is treating others in the way we expect and wish to be treated. The development of such social skills and an ability to form constructive relationships with others, whether they be friends or colleagues are essential skills for life and work. There are standards that are obvious to everyone.
Someone who is courteous is:
• polite
• nice
• prompt about saying ‘thank you’ and ‘please’
• smiley (and not whiney)
• able to listen, not just out of politeness
• good at taking time when dealing with someone
They are well liked by most people and are not easily pushed around. They rise above what a crowd might be doing and aren’t selfish.
Amongst other things, they:
• treat friends, relatives and people they know with warmth and respect, look them in the eye in conversations and listen to what they have to say, asking questions to better understand their perspectives or their concerns;
• don’t insult other people, mock them or act unkindly; if they have a criticism they say it to the person’s face rather than behind their back;
• don’t pry into other people’s affairs or push for information that another person does not wish to give;
• wear clothing or styles that are suitable and will not offend even though it might be individual;
• take part in conversations without dominating, demanding attention or being too loud;
• help people who require assistance and encourage quieter, shyer people to take part;
• hold doors open for older people and do not push in front of smaller people;
• eat sitting down, don’t get food everywhere and do not make chomping noises;
• arrive promptly and settle to take part in a group activity rather than e.g. continuing a conversation with their neighbour;
• do not sink to sending messages that are hurtful for ‘entertainment’;
• are not too noisy in a place where it might disturb others.
Courtesy is not always easy but it costs nothing and profits everybody. You know that if someone pushes in to a queue, maybe waiting for dinner, that this spreads annoyance and hatred. When you get older this is true if someone drives aggressively and endangers other people’s lives. If you are polite, take your place in a queue, wait for other people or hold a door for someone it makes them (and you) feel good; if you can smile whilst doing it – so much the better.













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